Now that we understand the Drama Triangle and how to shift into the Empowerment Triangle, it’s time to practise integrating these shifts into our daily lives.
This lesson focuses on turning awareness into action, so the three C’s — Challenger, Creator, Coach — become natural responses rather than a conscious effort each time.
Repetition Builds Skill
Like emotional intelligence, breaking free from the Drama Triangle is a skill that strengthens with practice.
The more often you notice your role, pause, and choose a constructive alternative, the more automatic it becomes.
- Notice: Pay attention to situations that trigger disruption or unmet needs.
- Pause: Before reacting, ask yourself: “Which role am I taking right now?”
- Choose: Shift into the Challenger, Creator, or Coach role, depending on the situation.
- Reflect: After the interaction, review how your response affected the outcome.
Practical Tips
- Keep a journal of situations where you recognise Drama Triangle roles. Note your default response and what you could do differently.
- Role-play challenging scenarios with a friend or colleague to practise shifting roles in a safe environment.
- Set reminders or cues in your day to pause and self-check — even small disruptions are opportunities to practise.
- Celebrate small wins — even noticing a role without reacting is progress.
Paying attention to Creation strengthens your ability to respond constructively.
Extended Reflection Exercise
Think of a recent disappointment or conflict. Use these steps to reflect and integrate:
- Identify the role you adopted: Persecutor, Victim, or Rescuer.
- Ask yourself: How could I shift into a Challenger, Creator, or Coach role?
- Imagine the outcome if you responded from the healthier role.
- Plan one small action you can take next time to practise this shift.
By regularly applying these strategies, you strengthen both your emotional intelligence and your ability to respond creatively rather than reactively.
Over time, your default response will shift from Drama to Creation, leading to more positive, empowering outcomes for yourself and others.
Congratulations — you have completed the Drama Triangle topic. Keep practising the three C’s, and remember: awareness plus effort equals growth.