Reasoning Ability & Preferences

Understanding how we think — and how we tend to respond to people, problems, and stress — can help us make better choices and build more resilient relationships.

We all have unique reasoning abilities and coping preferences. These influence how we process information, communicate, and handle challenges.

Conceptual Thinking: How We Make Sense of the World

Reasoning isn’t just about intelligence — it’s also about how we connect ideas, draw conclusions, and find meaning in complex situations. Some people are highly analytical, others more intuitive or creative. All of these ways of thinking are valid — but becoming aware of your own tendencies is key.

Interpersonal & Coping Preferences

You likely have preferred ways of:

• Interacting with others (e.g., assertive, reflective, accommodating)

• Handling stress (e.g., problem-solving, avoidance, emotional release)

These preferences can be strengths — but they can also limit us if we use them unconsciously or inflexibly.

🔍 Reflection

Think about the following:

• How do I usually respond when I’m under pressure?

• What kind of support or response do I look for from others?

• What happens when things don’t go my way — how do I cope?

🧠 Explore Your Flexibility

Being resilient doesn’t mean always responding the same way — it means adapting. The more flexible you are in your reasoning and coping, the more options you’ll have when facing challenges.

✏️ Activity 

Consider a recent situation where you felt stuck or overwhelmed. Ask yourself:

• What was my default thinking style in that moment?
• How did it shape my response?
• Could another way of thinking or coping have helped?

Write down your thoughts in your journal or a private reflection space.